Shop manual try helminc.com for a new one, they may not be listed on
the site but call their 1-800 # and they have them. You can also try
ebay if you don't mind a used one, they usually have one
around....chiltons/haynes for these trucks are pretty useless(i have
both for my 89

).
For the reverse lights, have someone jiggle the shifter(is it an auto?)
while in reverse, as far as it will go each way and watch the reverse
lights, probably just need to tighten your shift linkage or adjust your
switch, on mine i have to always push it back up a lil when in reverse
to get lights.
As far as mileage, if the engine/tranny are in good shape and you take
care of them, you should easily get another 100-200K out of them
depeding on how you use the truck.