2005 tacoma excessive cold idle speed

I'm new to the group and apologize if this is a tired topic, but
couldn't find it in a search of old posts. I have a 2005 Tacoma, 4
cyl. 5 spd. It idles at 2000 rpm for over a minute on a cold start.
It overpowers the brakes and digs holes in my gravel driveway unless I
ride the clutch. At work, idling in the parking lot, it quickly hits
2000 rpm in gear, which makes it buck. In general, it acts like a 1964
Dodge Dart with a poorly adjusted automatic choke. There are obviously
driving techniques that can deal with these problems, like riding the
clutch (which makes all the neighborhood dogs bark) or just waiting for
it to slow down, but why should I have do do that with a brand new
truck?. The dealer says that Toyota likes their new engines to "spin"
when they're cold, for longer life, and that this behavior is
programmed into the computer and can't be adjusted, and if you
over-ride it somehow, the check engine light will come on. My wife's
2003 Camry is perfectly behaved hot or cold, as was my beloved '92
pickup. Is there any solution to this, other than hoping Toyota gets a
lot of complaints and comes out with a service bulletin and a new chip?